Some of the most painful points in life are times of transition and change—graduating from college to join the work force, getting married, moving, or having children. Even when change is for the better, it is seldom easy.
Adjustments can be disheartening and painful—it is the price of change. It may cause us to balk at walking right in to new things that we know will affect our lives. But this pain is worth it. The difficulty in change should be something that gives us hope because it is a sign of something better being brought about in our lives.
Think of a violin. Its strings are pulled tight, and that is the only way it can produce notes. The bow is run over the strings, but only makes the right sound with the right amount of pressure—too little and the instrument whispers and it will screech under a heavy hand.
Music requires tension and stress, just as growth requires change. Without the pressure and the tension, there is no beauty produced. There is no change. Change often comes with pain, but would you spare the violin and miss out on a masterful composition?
God desires our lives to sing with beauty. After we enter into a relationship with Him, we are told to grow in our relationship with him. We aren’t meant to stay stagnant, because it wouldn’t be good for us or pleasing to God. We step into growth, but we can be assured that God is faithful and that the pain we may have to endure isn’t for nothing. Our pain is never for nothing, even in the midst of change. The pain is how we know that the old ways are falling off and that we are growing into something better.
The difficult times in our lives can often make us feel at odds with God—like He’s requiring us to jump out of our comfort zone (which is exactly what He’s doing). It’s facing these trials that I have found it to be an acceptable time to test God, often with a deal that says, “I’ll do this. I’ll step into this new thing if you make it worth it. Make me better on the other side, make my life beautiful through this, and I’ll do it.”
The irony is that we lack control in the first place to make a deal with God. Secondly, He is faithful by nature, and would not call us into change if our lives wouldn’t be better on the other side. He would not lead us into change if it wouldn’t benefit us or if it wasn’t worth it. He promises this in 2 Corinthians 4:16-18, “Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day. For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all. So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is seen, since what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal.”
Whatever your season may be, whatever change you may be called to or in the midst of, be assured that the pain is worth it. Instead of hating the hard times, embrace it because you know that the pressure and pain is going to yield something beautiful that you can’t see yet. It seems contradictory, but find hope in the most disheartening and uncomfortable moments because those moments are the ones that signal the most pressure, the most change, and therefore the most rewarding results.
– Sarah Eberwein
Listen to this week’s message from Pastor Caleb